I have just recently gotten back from a short trip around Europe with the family. They paid me a visit here in London you see and we decided to all have a merry adventure for a change after being separated for so long. It was in this interim period during their stay in London that my sexuality became known to them. I guess it wasn't too wise of me to make phone calls to a boy at night continuously for multiple nights in a row but suffice to say, they know.
Oddly enough my dad is rather alright with it. He was far more calm and accepting about the news than I'd have thought. Mother on the other hand went into abject silence and wasn't taking it too well. I could sense the disappointment and guilt and sadness emanating from her. Think she questioned whether sending me overseas was the right thing to do after all. Odd, I was always under the impression of my mom being the chilled one and my dad being the anti gay. Funny how the reality of the matter is.
All things considered I think they're taking it relatively well. Told them about my past love and how I lost it. Emphasized to them I still liked girls and that seems to have relieved my mom a whole ton and she has since began to talk a whole lot more about girls to me. I think she's trying to go into denial about the other side of me and just hope I get a girlfriend soon. The Korean girl that I met in a gay club and introduced to my parents a couple of weeks ago is currently the constant subject that they focus on. She got along well with my mom so I guess that's a good sign but I'm just not entirely feeling it with her.
Life probably won't quite be the same again. They will probably be suspicious of every male friend I bring over home for a sleepover or what not from now onwards. They'll probably scrutinise my every interaction with my male friends for signs of excessive affection too. I guess they'll just have to live with the reality of who I am. Ultimately, I am still their son and they are still my parents. Our love for each other doesn't change because of my preferences and it shouldn't. Maybe in time it will only make us closer.
I am who I am. Bisexual and proud.
well. things happened. tsk.
ReplyDeleteI have the feeling my parents going to be like yours. They also need times to accept it. Proud of you =)
ReplyDeleteMy parents are visiting me in syd now haha... i guess probably the dads would have experienced some sort of same sex attraction when they were young and hence the understanding
ReplyDeleteGay and bi is two different things here.
ReplyDeleteHope everything will be alright soon. :)
ReplyDeleteThanks for your support guys, reckon I'll be more than alright.
ReplyDelete@Khai Undoubtedly, although I won't have the moral high ground you gays have when it comes to not having a choice to lead the more conventional lifestyle. On my head and conscience be it should I go for males heh.
@bryan True as that may be, it's actually quite a disturbing thought. Actually it's very disturbing hahaha!
@Homophilic I reckon it will be, thanks for you support. :)
@IZ Yea, everything happens for a reason I guess. No more need for me to hide.
@Shin Aww, thanks. So planning to come out anytime soon then? Aha. Time and tide heals all things.
One thing done, everything else doesnt matter much anymore. Now u can live life without hiding anything =) U must feel so relieved
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